Understand the Room
What is already shaping the decision?
Being invited into the room starts long before there is something to influence.
To influence decisions I did not own, I had to understand more than the customer. I had to understand the room making the decision.
That meant understanding the product, the business, the technical constraints, what was already in motion, and what success looked like from each seat.
Customer understanding gave me a perspective.Understanding the organization made that perspective useful.
Every room already contained two things: a decision in motion — and a story about the customer.

Two realities.
One shared space.
Decision in motion
What was already in motion
What work, direction, or initiative was already underway.
Who owned the decision
Where authority and responsibility sat.
What they were accountable for
What outcomes they were expected to deliver.
Where the real constraints were
The limits shaped by technical, business, or organizational reality.
What success looked like from their seat
How progress or success was being understood by the people involved.

Two realities.
One shared space.
Story about the customer
Who did people believe we were designing for?
The customer picture already shaping decisions.
Which problems mattered most?
The needs and priorities people believed were central.
Where were they confident — and where were they not?
What was treated as known versus assumed.
Where assumptions were filling the gaps
The places where the story was being completed without enough evidence.
Together, these revealed the internal narratives already influencing decisions about the world outside.
Before people trusted the story I was bringing about the customer, they had to trust that I understood theirs.
That changed how I showed up. I tried not to bring another problem into the room without understanding what it would take to move forward.
Over time, usefulness built credibility — and credibility created access to conversations while decisions were still open to influence.
UsefulnessCredibilityEarlier access
The invitation into the room was not the influence itself.
It was what made influence possible.
Evidence does not shape a decision simply because it is true. It has to meet the decision where it is — so the next step was not changing the truth. It was changing the way into it.





